Do you blame
life?
Human beings are very able, God has blessed them with many
qualities. And the qualities which human beings have are beyond the measure of
the human mind. Unfortunately many times people fail to use their talents due
to certain events that happen in their lives. These events work in two ways
they either act as a full stop or they become a moving point. The growth of
some people completely stops with certain bad situations and occurrences in
their life and for some people, the same events act as a precursor for them to
become better and do great things in life.
“One person can
use his environment and circumstances as an excuse and the other uses it as a
reason to do better”
Unfortunately, most people like to play the blame game. They stop becoming better just because life has been hard on them but we need to ask ourselves a simple question.
Whose life has not been hard?
Almost every person you meet in life would have faced some losses and numerous hardships.
There is no such thing as an easy life, every human being has his
share of hardships, for some less and some more but the pain and hardships are
always there. They are the essence of life.
A lot of human beings like to live as victims forever. Most people think in this way, they use their circumstances as an excuse. They stop doing anything worthwhile because they believe that their circumstances hinder them. They play the victim game all their life.
At one point they are surely the victims of the horrible situations in their lives, but when they don’t move on. They remain victims forever.
Author, Robin Sharma explains
this situation as a disease called, “Victim
Excusitis”,
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People
with this disease try to complain about everything
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They
complain a lot about their problems but do very little to fix the problem
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Rather
than giving, their nature yearns to take
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They
are a pro at complaining but not so good at problem-solving and creating
● They worry a lot and work very less
As JK Rowling says,
"There is
an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction;
the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.”
You might have a hard life, unloving friends, parents, or a
partner. Your school fellows might bully you or your teacher would have
degraded you. Colleagues at work might be mean or your boss might be really
rude. This happens with many and it’s an awful situation. Often it gets very
hard to overcome it. One feels his heart sinking and his body trembling.
At these very moments, we need to muster up our courage. Tell ourselves that,
“We are not the things which happened to us, we are bigger than that and we are going to better ourselves against all the odds”.
Despite the gloominess of the night human beings need to look at the silver lining that God has put at the end of every dark cloud.
In spite of being victims to the difficult situations we face, we need to shift our minds and become our very own heroes.
Heroes don’t blame, instead, they look for a solution.
The article is written by Uswah E Fatima, one of the writers at
the School of Literature.
