Rape committed by the victim's partner is known as marital rape or spousal rape. You may think of it as a mix of domestic violence and sexual abuse. Rape is often perceived as a crime that occurs solely between strangers.
What
do people think about marital rape?
Even
religious leaders would answer "no" when asked about marital rape.
They would say something like, "It's not rape if you're married" or
"Your body is not your own," as if it were your responsibility if he
had an affair or watched pornography since you didn't give him enough sex, to
begin with.
People also say that if the wife doesn’t consent to sexual relations, then divorce her. They think that it is a green card to do whatever you want with your wife. She becomes the property and if both are married, how is the rape? They say that it doesn’t exist in our culture and religion.
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Is
marital rape a confusing term?
Yeah,
it’s a confusing term, especially for Asian men. They understand marital rape
the same way Asian women understand the offside rule in football. In both
cases, there is a line that shouldn’t be crossed.
Why do more than a hundred countries in the world criminalize marital rape because more than a hundred languages mean the same thing?
Why
don't women say anything about it?
Quite
a few of you may be asking why ladies don't say no. But the situation is far
more complex than it looks. As a result of financial and emotional dependence,
some women remain in violent relationships while others are unaware they have
been raped in the first place. It is a common misconception among couples that
they cannot rape each other. A third concern is that no one would believe me.
When
you are raped by someone who has promised to protect you in sickness and in
health, it may be a shocking experience. As a reminder, there are frequently no
laws or strong regulations in place to prosecute rape in the context of
marriage. Although marital rape is legally illegal in the United States,
conviction rates are low.
Many nations in Asia, Africa, and the Middle East have legalized marital rape. These include India, Pakistan, Singapore, China, Egypt, Lebanon, and Morocco. Eight states, including Ohio, Oklahoma, and Connecticut, have semi-legalized marital rape, according to a June 2015 story in The Daily Beast. It is therefore lawful for a male to drug and sexually attack a woman in Ohio.
Does
it affect mental health?
Being
sexually assaulted may change how you perceive yourself, others, and the
world.
As
a result, it may influence your perception of sex, love, and other aspects of
your life.
Cassell
describes it as a type of trauma.
As
with all untreated trauma, sexual assault by an intimate partner can lead to
physical and mental health issues.
Do
what you can with what's at your disposal.
Someone
you care about committing a crime against you may cause you to feel confused
and experience a range of emotions.
Whatever
you feel, it's perfectly normal to feel that way.
What you need is a secure place where you can process your experience and receive assistance.
What is the cause of marital rape?
- Dominance
He
may try to establish himself by pushing himself on the woman if there is a
growing disagreement between them. He intends to humiliate and degrade his wife
to outdo her. By doing so, he is demonstrating his dominance over her and
violating her privacy.
- Between the pair, there is
sexual discord.
Sometimes,
a woman may not be interested in having sexual relations with her spouse for
reasons that are only apparent to her. There is a tendency for men to be more
sexually overexposed than women. It is therefore an affront to his masculinity
for the guy to be denied sexual relations.
Because
she has a history of sexual abuse at a young age, the wife may not regard
sexual intercourse as a joyful or good activity. As a result, she may not
receive it in the manner in which her husband anticipates. As a result, he may
not feel welcomed since he is denied the opportunity to perform the sexual act.
If the male feels humiliated, he may try to push himself on the wife to get over the shame of sexual rejection.
Who
commits marital rape?
1. Self-conscious men
In
general, men who commit marital rapes have poor self-esteem. Force is not
something that a self-assured person would use against his wife. It won't matter
to him if he respects her desires or seeks sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
These
guys may not grasp the seriousness of their actions until the ladies leave them
alone and leave them behind. Their feelings of shame and revulsion will be
postponed.
Their
poor self-esteem is accompanied by a strong sense of self-hatred. This makes
them angry when their partners turn them down in bed since they perceive
themselves as failures.
2. Jobless guys
According
to a recent study, unemployed men are more likely to be raped in
marriage.
3. Family history
Men
who have grown up watching their fathers imitate their mothers are more likely
to imitate them.
4. Hypermaculity
A society can normalize marital rape if they promote toxic masculinity or hypermasculine men. "Macho" males are more prone to believing in "wifely obligations" and that employing force in such situations is appropriate, according to recent research.
Recommendation:
This includes counseling and other resources that women need for full recovery and integration into their communities, as well as legal support (including the provision of compensation) for perpetrators. Men should be educated and re-socialized from an early age. A further call to action for males is to join and actively support non-governmental organizations (NGOs) that focus on reducing gender-based violence against women in all its manifestations.
Reminder
Unmarried
and married women have the same freedom to govern their bodies.
Rape
is never an easy subject to broach, especially in the media. Another human has
violated a person's body, trust, emotions, sanity, and confidence. Putting it
that way, it seems impossible, doesn't it? Unfortunately, most civilizations
tolerate marital rape.
Stop! Women aren't only a source of profit. As of today, rape in marriage is still a crime. Wives are not their husbands' property. The act of raping a spouse is not an act of love. Essentially, it's a combination of domestic violence and sexual assault. In other words, a NO is a NO.
