We all must have heard "Toxic Relationship" in our surroundings. It could be in friendship or with family. Daily, we also come across hundreds of social media posts about toxic relationships. We read many write-ups about it. Sometimes, our friends' relationship with those pre-read write-ups or posts, too. But unfortunately, whenever we are in the same boat, we become blind or wear blindfolds of words like "Love is Blind" or I am sacrificing for our relationships because I care.
Sometimes, we can't even recognize that our relationships are becoming toxic. At that time, we forget that loving others is important, but loving yourself is mandatory. Dear love is not blind. Yes, we can say that love has a nature of forgiveness, but like everything, it has and must have some limits, too.
We are human beings. We need to be loved. How can you say it is love that is costing your mental health or self-respect?
Yes,
we have to put the effort into making our relationships strong. Some
relationships need more action, some need less, but everyone needs to be
understood; it is a vital tool to keep an eye on whether
yo, ur steps are one-sided or you both put effort equally.
What
Is a Toxic Relationship?
The worst place to live in is a toxic relationship. So, a question arises: why do people live in such a wrong place? A toxic relationship does not
necessarily harm people physically but emotionally or mentally. Where one or
both partners do not support the ideas of the other, eventually, every conflict
turns into an argument. They claim to love you but do not want to change their
toxic behaviors. It destroys your self-esteem.
Signs
of a Toxic Relationship
Love
is the most beautiful feeling on earth. Love makes you feel worthy. It reaches
you to the heights. But along with it makes you blind too. You become unable to
see the faults and negative consequences of it.
For example, whenever you share your feelings related to something, they deny it
and make you feel stupid to feel that way.
Usually,
people cannot identify toxic relationships; it mainly occurs when
they grow up in a toxic family or surroundings. Here are some signs that can
help you to identify unhealthy relationships;
If
you consistently feel drained or unhappy after spending time with your partner,
it could be a sign that things need to change, says the relationship therapist
Jor-El Caraballo.
Disrespect
Lack
of Support
You
avoid sharing your problems to restrain from conflicts
Controlling
behavior
You
constantly feel stressed
These
are some signs that may differ from the type of relationship you have with your
partner.
Is
There Any Way to Fix It?
Any relationship can be fixed if both partners want it fixed. It will take time and a lot of patience, but it can be improved. If they do so, the only thing that can help you is '"communication". Yes, you read it right: communicate with your partner. Be verbal whenever anything bothers or irritates you.
Tell them what you feel about that specific thing? And ask them
if there is anything that concerns them. Then, try your best to work on it.
Believe me, communication can resolve all your problems. Remember that
communication is not always comforting. Sometimes, you must listen and
understand that your ears don't want to, but it is always worth it.
But
if your partner doesn't want to talk over it or doesn't want to grow mentally, it is better to respect your mental health, leave that place, and move on.
Because emotionally, they had gone.
Bottom
Line
Not a single relationship is more significant than your mental health. No matter what time you realize your relationship is toxic, try your best to fix it. If it is impossible, then take a bold step and leave it. I know it's the most challenging step, but believe me, it only harms you, drains your energies, and builds your self-doubt. Most of the time, people are not toxic; situations or conditions make them unhealthy. It can affect us, too.
Sometimes, we become contaminated, too. Whenever you realize that you are
becoming harmful to someone, Take some space and fix your dangerous behavior on your
own. Have your positive energies back and again mingle with them with all your
positive potential.
This article is written by Resham Kashif, one of the contributors at the School of Literature.
