An everlasting and perpetual debate in our society that has never set foot on any conclusion. So, gird up your loin because as this article proceeds, we are going to reach a culmination to this social necessity; either love or arranged marriage.
A
love marriage, basically, is by the will of the couple itself. The couple has
indeed complete discretion of their future life and aspirations. They don't
have a chance to implicate others (in case, their marriage isn't well-heeled)
as it was their own decision.
On the other hand, an arranged marriage is totally by the consent of the family or guardian of the respected couple. However, in some cases, they have the opportunity to express their endorsement or disapproval. An arranged marriage isn't necessarily always forced, sometimes there can be a bit of fragrance from the petals of love arising.
How much love or arrange marriage is successful, mostly varies person to person, but one can follow these Ten Rules to be Successful. Although success in every field is our goal but We Should not Run After Success instead follow Don't Go After Success; Create Ability.
Why Love Marriage?
Love marriages might be considered annoying to some and bliss for others depending on the insight, their acumen holds. Love marriage is solely the only concept of marriage, that exists in the west. Promotion of your love by leveling up it to the mounted stage of marriage is the best feeling considered. Following are some bonus points of love marriage.
Love
marriages, certainly, are pre-planned. These marriages bestow the couple with an
elbow room to coordinate their future goals, discuss their priorities and
harmonize their upcoming plans leading to a marital union.
As
the couple had spent a lot of time together, before their marriage, they had
already discussed their fears, their likes, their dislikes, their interest, and
everything. In this way, they already have a better understanding and
chemistry.
Love
marriage is also a way of unburdening one's parents of finding the best spouse
for their children. So one side, the couple finds the best match for themselves
and on the other way, they uplift the responsibility of parents to search house
by house, an ideal match for their children.
Love
marriages, a gateway to a better understanding between the couple, can also
prove helpful to eradicate social stigma such as dowry and demand of other
households.
One
of the rewards of love marriage is the extermination of the rejection the
females have to face and extirpate the fact that women are considered merely a
decoration piece, while handing a tray of cups, in front of a family, being
judged by her height, complexion, her hairs, and everything.
Love
marriage is also an obstruction to benchmark that a person from a particular
caste shall be married in the same caste and religion. With evolving world and
traditions, love is painting its color in the entire town and can lead to
evolution.
Indeed,
it is profoundly said
"A strong marriage requires two who choose to love each other even on those days when they struggle to like each other".
Why Arranged marriage?
Arranged
marriages, by all means, are performed by the consent and happiness of families
for several reasons. These arranged marriages have the following beneficiaries
which can chiefly lead to some happy ending in a couple's life. This custom of
arranged marriage is specifically significant in Asian countries like Pakistan,
India, Bangladesh, Srilanka, Nepal, and some underdeveloped countries across
Europe.
Since
arranged marriages are just because of the contentment of families, so it gives
the married couple a golden chance to make their parents accountable in case
their married life is unbalanced. In this way, the family of the concerned
couple is always there to resolve the riots of a couple by mutual consultation,
just opposite to love married couples.
In
arranged marriages, there is a relatively low ratio of emotional and physical
abuse, as both of the members have their family support on their back (very
rare in love marriage).
One
of the most blissful merits of arranged marriage is that it veils the previous
life, and hiding all the facts of both members avoiding rampage and taunts
based on precipitate life.
Mostly
in arranged marriages, the families know the background and framework of each
other, leading to lesser leg-pulling and frauds, ensuring marital stability.
Arranged
marriages are always at better hand in terms of raising children, giving them a
friendly atmosphere that corroborates better raising of children in the shadows
of family blessing.
Financial
stability is also the excellence of arranged marriage.
Arranged marriage, indeed certify, the satisfaction of parents leading to eternal pleasure.
Which One Is More Successful?
Based on the evidence, considering the duration of the marriage as a criterion for the success of marriage, arranged marriages are far more successful than love marriages.
A recent autonomous survey was conducted in 2019, according to which 74% of arranged marriages were successful than love marriages.
Another survey was conducted which determined that out of successful arranged marriages, the following ratios were found of marriages in first and second cousins.
Conclusion
A
possible conclusion is obviously that arranged marriages are successful
generally according to the data given above.
But
if you question that which marriage is supposed to be successful for you?
Then
nobody else other than you can answer. Because the perks of each of these vary
from individual to individual. It now depends on your ability to paint the town
red with your love, to express your feelings for your spouse, withstand the
constant pressure of marital life, to inhale your deep love rooted in the LOVE
marriage, and expand it every day by exhaling the efforts to make every day
worth living with your soulmate OR to find the hidden love; the fact that you
always meant to be together because you both were the fortunes of each other.
Though you never thought of marrying the God was planning you to be accompanied
to face hardships of your life in ARRANGED marriage.
It's
entirely up to you to celebrate or deliberate your married life.
"A Perfect Marriage is When Two
Imperfect People Refuse to Give Up on Each Other".
(Kate Stewart)
Contributed by, Syeda Rabia Batool Naqvi
